Don’t make mistakes.
We are humans. We learn through the basic mechanism of trial and error. It is absolutely impossible to think that we won’t make mistakes, that we will be some perfect creatures. Because the truth is we can’t be. There is no such thing as a perfect human being.
However, life is weird, we grow up being told off for making small mistakes and once we are grown ups, we are told that we should make mistakes, that its okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them, but the truth is: its not okay to make mistakes.
Trust me, I really want to tell you that its fine and all that crap but its not. Mistakes leave scars and mistakes have consequences.
As part of a greater species, the cause and effect of our actions is not isolated. We are all linked to each other in this extremely complex web, and as one person makes a mistake, it tends to make the whole web ripple and shake. We aren’t the only ones effected by our mistakes.
You can feed into the ‘ make mistakes’ narrative, you can believe that the most you need to do is learn from your mistakes, that forgive and forget is a thing, but its not. No one ever really forgets the mistakes you made, not even you, yourself. No one is going to forget that time you tried to experiment with cooking and failed, no one is going to forget that one time you wore those God awful pants, no one is going to forget that relationship that was a huge mistake not you nor the other person involved. That friend you screwed over might say its okay because you made a mistake, but will it ever really be okay? Every time you meet some friends, they’ll remind you of your failed singing attempt, of that time you failed a test, a class.
In all honesty, just think about it, how many of your mistakes have you forgiven yourself for? Do you wake up at nights to take a leak and end up thinking of all those mistakes you made? Are you laughing at something and then you stop halfway because you remembered that mistake of yours? Have you really made your peace with all those mistakes?
I doubt it.
Don’t be okay with making mistakes, they’ll haunt you at night. Make mistakes when you feel like you are okay with the fact that we live in a harsh world where mistakes define us. I wish it wasn’t so, but how far have wishes ever taken anyone?
Don’t listen to people who tell you to make mistakes, they don’t know what they are talking about. And don’t listen to people who tell you not to make mistakes, they don’t know what they are talking about either.